I am pretty sure that we will never have a unanimous opinion on this and debating will go on and on if we are to have one, with conflicting perceptions from various corners of the society. I have been pondering over to write about this topic for almost 2 yrs back but refrained from doing so as many who read my blog is from the orthodox Tamil society and a very few will appreciate my views. Well I am ready to break the shackles now, but only for a few and you are one among them.... :) This is the only reason for my new blog space.
Pre-marital sex is perfectly right an act and I don't see anything wrong in it. People with a different view can stop here, continuing is only going to irritate and frustrate you ... :) The term by itself has gained popularity only in the recent times and there were not many instances of the same being talked about a couple of decades back. At the same time none can deny its existence right from the day mankind came into existence, but it is more prevalent these days than it was in the past. Everything has a reason in the world except love, so does the increase in the pre-marital affairs. There are few factors leading to it and the average age of getting into marriage is a vital factor of all. The average age of people getting into marriage have been increasing steadily over years and we can see people marrying in their late twenties or early thirties which was an age to have couple of children going to school for our previous generation. The next factor would be the age at which we attain physical maturity which has been decreasing on contrary to the previous factor. And when I say physical maturity I mean the readiness of the people to explore their sexual capabilities. I am not sure if physical maturity is the right term for it…. ! ! ! To my knowledge many girls attained puberty during their 12th standard or after that a generation back, but it is not a rare sight to see a girl attaining puberty when she is in her 6th std or even below in few cases these days. The major blaming for this goes to the kind of diet we have and it is still in research I believe. But for some reason it has come down over years. And the last according to me would be lack of exposure to sex education and that has not improved till date. I don’t see a drastic improvement even in the near future.
Considering all these factors it’s natural for someone to indulge in pre-marital affairs and you can’t blame them for it. Had they married earlier they would have had a passage to meet their biological needs and pre-marital affairs is something they would have never given a thought about. People today go through a tremendous pressure in their academic and professional life than the ones from the previous generation and pre-marital affairs help them to relax a bit from all these pressures. It also helps them to explore their sexual side and even decide what kind of a girl or guy they like before marriage to some extent but one should also be aware that life is not just about sex.. J After having said all these this theory holds good both sexes and generally our society doesn’t mind what a guy does before marriage and act differently when it comes to a girl. That’s totally unfair, if a guy wants to have an pre-marital affair then he should be more than ready to accept a wife who is not a virgin… J That’s a bitter pill for him to take but the girl had done the same for him too. And when it comes to extra-marital affairs people have I see that to be cheating and I am still not able to see the right side of it. Many have argued it is just because of the fact they have ended up with a wrong partner. I need to explore on that side of relationships a little more before I can comment anything on that …. J
Disclaimer: This is just my personal opinion and has got nothing to do with my personal life :)
