No Wonder

After watching Top Chef and Amazing Race and wanting to watch the season finale of CSI: NY, I hit the bed reluctantly at around 11 PM just because of the fact that I need to get the office bus next morning. I did get-up on time and after my usual routine of checking my mails and sending Morning mails to my friends and family, I started of swiftly to catch the office bus as planned. The worse part here was that I missed to pick my mobile and the worst part is I didn't have even a single rupee in my wallet apart from the 20 which I had to pay for the Auto.


On my way to the stop I decided to borrow a mobile to make an urgent call from one of more 20 colleagues who would board the bus in my stop though I didn’t know anyone among them and I haven't spoken to any despite of the fact that we all board there for almost more than 2 yrs. I know it is kind of weird but then, that’s the way people are these days in this industry. The four most common things these people do in the bus is either they sleep or read or sit idle else fall in love with their pods. I fall into the first category here :)

Well it was drizzling slightly and I boarded the bus and took a window seat which was left free to my surprise. I was expecting a guy to sit in my seat as girls mostly avoid sitting beside me for some reason. Unfortunately that day a girl sat next to me and I lost complete hope of making that urgent call then. Well many would argue saying all that I had to do was to ask her to use her phone and the job is done. But all that I could think about was “What if she denies???”That very thought of getting a no made me skeptical about asking and my mind was racing with its thoughts and it was swinging in dilemma. By the time I decided the bus had crossed half way to office and I decided let me make the call after reaching the office. Well even the initial decision was the same :)

No wonder I had no guts to propose the girl I liked so much :)

Living Legend

Living legend is too simple a word to describe this young man... :) Well from the innings he plays you can still call him the "Little Master Blaster". No price for guessing the man. Dravid once said that on offside there is god and then there is Ganguly. To me in the cricket field there is god then there is Sachin. It would be a crime to not have a blog on my hero for the past 16 years after the knock he played against Australia in Hyderabad. Commentators were running out of superlatives to describe his shots and his placement. He never plays to answer his critics but this knock was an answer all those senseless and brainless idiots suggesting that he should retire. I really wonder why should he retire when he scores almost 1000 runs a year studed with an innings of such quality in pressure situations.

I am sure there is hell a lot to write about this living legend but then I am going to wait till he hangs his boots. That for me would be a black day, in fact millions would feel the same. I hope he wins the world cup before he retires thats the only missing stone in his already splendid crown.

Hail Sachin and Long Live Sachin.....

Be in touch

It has been almost 5 years since I came out of college.One thing that most people find difficult is to keep in touch with friends from school and college. They somehow loose contact even with orkut and facebook :) When they come across after a long time there is some kind of a barrier developed by time and it reflects in the way they get along. I know life has to move on and you can't have your friends forever.It would be really stupid to think so, unless you start a venture together and remain as business partners ... :) 


I have even seen some of the best friends end up in a "Hi-Bye" relationship. This is not only due to the competitive world that we are in today.The major reason is that we expect a lot out of our friends even after we take different paths in life which is impossible. I have lost few good friends this way. The best way to continue the friendship is just to begin where you left. Enjoy every moment you spend with them together after a long time instead of getting in to complaining mode fighting that they didn't make any efforts to be in touch with you. Just cherish the moments that you get in this competitive and mechanical world. I hope that all my friends read this and I hope to cherish all the moments that I get with them in the future.


Love you all.  Try to be in touch .... :) 


Disclaimer : 
This is only for those value each others friendship and have little time to get together in this busy world. It is totally stupid to touch base with someone who does not value your friendship and I would never ever do that for sure... 

What a Girl can do :)

I am not going to debate on who is superior " Boy or Girl". I am never going to argue on that because both are totally different in most aspects and have their own strengths and weakness.The interesting fact is that both complement each other and it would be really a nightmare to be in a world with just guys or girls.At least for me I would prefer being in an environment with a little glamour quotient than in a Mechanical department. :) No offense intended.


Coming back to what a girl can do, many argue that they can do anything what a guy can do but not many can substantiate the statement.But a few days back I realised what a girl can do that guys can never. We travelled in an auto from not knowing that we had no change to pay for the Auto.So when we reached the place we searched in our wallets only to find a couple of 500 denominations. So I requested for change almost in all shops and even to the auto drivers in that location without much luck. :( ....


All I had to do was give th 500 to a girl and send her to the same shop where they denied me change and she just returned with 5*100 notes in just couple of mintues. It was bloody frustrating, but then realised it is after all a Girl's world and everyone is as poruki as I am :) I left the place wondering about chanakya's quote which goes like this..


" The world's biggest power is the youth and beauty of a woman." ....

Dress Code...

This is one topic that has been the most debated one and also will be a most debated one for long time... :)

Somehow people don't come to terms with basic human rights and end up accusing a group of people for their dress code.The group which is most affected is women in this issue. I really pity them for that fact they come under scrutiny most times. I really can't imagine Sania Mirza playing her matches in gowns covering her length and breadth. She would be out of the circuit for good. She gets noticed for her dress than her powerful forehand strokes which she is very good at.

In yet another incident an actress was accused by few politicians or the so called social activists for wearing skimpy clothes for one of the function presided by the CM.That was a bloody cheap attempt to be in news :) I am sure they would have drooled over her in the function before accusing her in the press... :)  I would like to see these people, running the government ban movies for the usage of skimpy clothes. I am sure theatres and mutiplexes will be out of business.The funniest thing here is the accusers should watch the movie produced by CM's son before making such accusation.I wonder why is that only women are targeted for the dress code. In my opinion few heroes should be hanged to death for their colorful costumes. You know who I mean here ... :)

I also find it strange to see that remarks of these kind on women don't come from the female celebrities ! It is generally men who make the most noise. They are so keen in what their opposite sex wears than they themself :) To me there should be nothing called as dress code expect for the educational institutions and servcies. It is  a human right to wear what he or she feels comfortable for her and to the ocassion. As long as they are ok with what they wear it is perfectly fine. We can of course make comments on what they wear and how it suits them but never force or order them to follow a dress code. In one of the talk shows a year an actress claimed that it is their wish and they will wear anything they feel like. I completely second her thoughts as long as she wears something :)

At the sametime I wouldn't like to hear women saying
Che indecent fellow , Epadi pakuran paaru...
Chi karumam enga paakuran paru di avan...
Evanuga yellam thirunthavae maatanuga...
Thirunthadha jenmam di avan vidu ......
so on and so forth. That's totally unfair.

PS : No offense intended on anyone in particular.

What Dollars can do :)

A family in Gujarat was puzzled when the coffin of their dead mother (Ba) arrived from the US . It was sent by one of the daughters.

The dead body was very tightly squeezed inside the coffin, with no space left in it when they opened the lid; they found a letter on top addressed to her brothers and sisters:

Dear Chandrakantbhai, Arvindbhai,Smitaben and Varsha ,

I am sending Ba's body to you,since it was her wish that she should be cremated in the compound of our ancestral home in GUJARAT. Sorry, I could not come along as all of my paid leave is consumed. You will find inside the coffin, under Ba's body, cans of cheese, 10 packets of Tobler chocolates and 8 packets of Badam (peanuts) please divide these among all of you. On Ba's feet you will find a new pair of Reebok shoes (size 10) for Mohan. There are also 2 pairs of shoes for Radha's and Lakshmi's sons. Hope the sizes are correct. Ba is wearing 6 American T-Shirts. The large size is for Mohan. Just distribute the rest among yourselves. The 2 new Jeans that Ba is wearing are for the boys. The Swiss watch that Reema wanted is on Ba's left wrist. Shanta masi, Ba is wearing the necklace, earrings and ring that you asked for. Please take them off her..The 6 white cotton socks that Ba is wearing must be divided among my nephews Please distribute all these fairly.

Love - Nitu.

PS : If anything more required let me know soon as Bapuji is also not feeling too well now a days.

This is one of the forwards that I received today and was really wondering if there are people like Nitu. I pray and hope not. Though things are blown out of proportion here, I happen to know a guy who stayed in USA instead of attending his mother's funeral just to safe his position in this recession there in USA. I should be addresing the guy as an animal here. Well the after effects is that he was sent back just after couple of months. I somehow felt little happy hearing that with a villanious smile in my heart ... :)

Does dollars have more value than our loved ones ????

Obviously it is not, 200 %

Break-Up

I have already posted on this topic here. What made me start another post about this is a fantastic movie called Nadodigal. To say in a sentence, it is a classic piece of work by the director and the cast with minimum flaws.

Talking on the movie, the major plus to it is the dialogues and it's delivery especially by Sashi. I just loved hearing the native accent of Madurai which is proving to be winner is most movies ignoring the movies used to turn Black to white .. :) Though the movie lost its momentum in the later parts it was worth the watch. The comedy was carried all the way along with the story and the cast handled it really well. The atthai ponnu "Anaya" was great with her expressions, but turned out to be a pretty normal girl going against her wish and crying her whole life about that. The father guiding his son on love was something good to see happening at least in the screen :) In fact each and every character was portrayed in manner that they left an impression though small but strong in our minds.

The three main characters including Sashi helps his friend in getting married to a girl against their parents wishes with great difficult sacrificing a lot. This was so cinematic and I can bet not many will do 1% of what the they do even for their closest friend, leave alone a common friend. But then there are still few fools like this even now.... :) The climax was the best ending this movie could have had and I really appreciate the director for not turning the characters into killing spree as done in most movies.

Back to break-ups. Is it really a sin to have a break-up.....? I guess not at all.When 2 people get together they have their own expectations out of each other, and when that is not met we have a barrier developing between them. There is no real threat to the relationship as long as the barrier is to an acceptable level but, if that's growing higher and higher then it is better we have break-up instead of continuing it which is a pain for both involved. They can remain friends forever even after the break-up. I don't see any reason why they can't ..... :) Well having said this, if only one is not interested in the relationship anymore and wants a break-up then that's called ditching , a word most associated with girls barring few guys :) Well at least from what I have seen it has been mostly the girls (99.99%). I am not going argue about the reason behind it. Those are obvious.... :)

The major problem is that people get along just on physical attraction and call that to be love. So once they out of the physical desire they end up in a break-up. This is ridiculous. I would prefer people being open on their intentions in a relationship. It is better to be together and see if things work between them and then fall in love rather than jumping in too early and regretting the thought later. In simple you can better call it a pre-marital affair if that is what your intentions are, that way people will not mistake true lovers. That's the whole point brought in the and I very much agree to that.

In-Laws

This is one topic which most girls may find it offending, it would be better for them to stop with this very first sentence before hating me ... :) So here we go .....

I see many girls these days cut short of smiles which they had a few months back only to remember that they are married now and live with their In-Laws. Well it is really difficult for the girls to leave a place and people with whom they have been comfortable with for the past 20 odd years and move to a new place and get used to all those whom they have hardly met. This holds good for any kind of a marriage.Well this relocation concept as they call in IT industry is difficult for guys too.But it's the girls who are the scape goats in our society set-up and I really pity them and there is very little that we can do about it.

So what is that very little we can do about it ? Hmmm... ! Thats a Good question :)

This doesn't mean that I don't have an answer for this. I do have one and it is simple. All that we have to is just understand others and their feelings or emotions what ever they call it. Easier said than done. ... :) I know. Well somehow I get a feeling that most Mother-In-Law and Daughter-In-Laws hates each other.Spending considerable time analysing what the reason behind this,we will narrow down to a simple issue called the possessiveness :) The Mother feels that her son is being taken away from her while the girl finds her In-Law to be great hindrance in her way to get along with her husband.It is just a pshycological problem.

Simple fact is the newly weds needs to spend considerable time to get along and it is very natural that they spend most of their time with the new found companion than anybody else.Everybody takes a back seat in their life including siblings,friends and even parents.All we have to realise is that after marriage the priorities get changed which would have been the case even when they were married but somehow they find it difficult to get in terms when they face the music.

Now coming to guys,all they have to do is reduce or if possible abort their Male Chauvinism and treat their In-Laws as their parents and not like a strangers on whom you can count on for your financial needs.No offence here but that's how many are today.Exceptions are handful in this case.

And now to girls, they are the ones with a major chunk to do here. Treat your In-Laws as your family and don't get bogged down by the thought that you have to adjust to all this crap until I get the guy out of this family and start a nuclear family.Instead try to adapt to the new life and you will feel part of a new family as you felt back in your home.I bet this will never happen overnight but then it will happen for sure provided you are patient enough. How long is a question nobody can answer.

It all depends on how much both parties wanting to be together in harmony... :)

The whole point behind me writing this post is a question from my friend. "What do u think about a Joint Family" ? Well when someone asks you a opinion on something you can be assured that they have something against it. I did give her my opinion on that, but what was shocking to know was her idea about the joint family.To me a joint family is one where u haveathais,mamas,chithappas,chithis,paati.thatha so on and so forth.I guess most would agree with me on this,but to her just the presence of In-Laws makes it a joint family. I was alarmed to hear this. May be it is because of the definition in one of our company policy for family where it reads " Family is you , your spouse and your kids " .. :)

Well may be she is not at fault. The society has now become more self-centred and everybody thinks only for themself than it was before including me.The family set-up is now becoming more and more nuclear and thats ridiculous for me. I wonder who will take care of the parents if everyone wants to live only with their better-half.One thing we have to remember is ,what we are today and what we will be tomorrow is all because of our parent's sacrifice in the past and it is really unfair to be bloody selfish and live only for yourself ignoring the elders.

I would suggest, infact advice against having a companion who is not going treat your parents with some concern.This holds good for both guys and girls.

Top Slip

It is kind of weird feeling when you are with a group of guys whom you hardly meet or speak, but still feel one among themslef and have fun and enjoy with them.

It is even more weird when you are with the guys whom you meet daily and speak daily and still don't feel part of them when you are with them .... :)

Mind = ???

You are turning out to be a sentimental guy.

- Rajesh

There is some kind of an negative pattern in your recent blogs.

- Sayee

These were few comments that I got from my friends for the blogs I have posted recently.Few others also reflected same comments reading my blog.So I just sat back retrospecting the stuff that I had written for the past 6 months and what my friends felt seemed true to me.There was quite a dose of bad energy in those blogs except the last one which I wrote for my 25th Birthday.But it was accidental that the blogs had a pattern which were mere incidents in my life :)Those incidents have changed me for good."That one thing which doesn't kill makes you stronger".But certainly I have not become a sentimental guy as my friend Rajesh has guessed.Even now I am predominantly a brain ruler,at the same time I am not denying the fact that I do decide from heart at times.

My zoology teacher once asked "Where is our mind ?".Back then we were flabbergasted by this question and we were not able to justify our answers.He was witty enough to counter all the reasoning we gave them then.At last we just lost the hope of convincing him with our answers.But the interesting fact at the end of the discussion was that all 20 odd people in the class had only 2 answers and they were Brain and Heart.Little did we know that Mind is just a mixture of both Heart and Brain.

I have heard people saying that he is a Heart ruler and she is a Brain ruler.So does that mean the Heart ruler makes decisions based only on what is heart says and he doest not put his brain to use and the vice-versa for the Brain rulers.. :) Of course not, the factor to differentiate is the percentage of what they use the most in most circumstances.I bring in another factor circumstances as many would use both heart and brain interchangeably depending on the circumstances.For instance a Manager may sack a person just like that using his brains but when he has something for an employee then he tends to hesitate and that is where the emotions come into picture.So for the same situation a person can use either.So in my personal opinion it is only the mind which is responsible for the decisions we make and not just the heart or the brain.

Mind is responsible for one's thoughts as well as feelings.Ones knowledge and intellectual ability depends on their Mind which is fed by both heart and brain.In simple there is not a single person the world in who is 100% either Heart ruler or 100% Brain ruler.Every human is basically a Mind ruler where heart and brain have their share to play.So where is this mind now ??? Back to square one the 8th std question and the answer is yet to be found. .... :) Let me know if anyone can come up with the answer.

As to me Mind is something logical which is wandering between heart and brain taking sides then and there :) I am sure I can justify my Zoo teacher if at all I get to meet him now.

So finally I have broken the jinx with no such patterns as felt by my friends.

One final thing " I am also a mind ruler with brain playing the most part :) "