Happy New Year 2011

It has been 5 years since I started blogging and somehow I have never blogged at the end of a year about what had the whole year in my life. This year has been an interesting one in my life though it is short of many instances worth mentioning. The best one is that I decided to take a new path in life when it came to professional life. I decided to give away the chance to travel abroad for a long term and instead decided to move away from the company I had worked for close to 5 years for some personal reasons. I got one of the best send off from my friends. It was really a memorable day that I had spent with all my friends in the company staying till 10’o clock on the last day. It was a moment to cherish. :)  

June 14^th marked the day of new beginning in our lives, we started off a school which has been my father’s long time dream. I couldn’t thank each and every person who had contributed to the cause of starting that school. The list goes long and not many are into the web world so I refrain from mentioning names here J we have only around 30+ students learning at present and I am sure we have a very long way to go before we can call that project to be a successful one. But for now I believe it is good start to the new path I had mentioned earlier in the blog. It is kind of nice to see the kids learning and feels good when you realize that you are in some way contributing to the growth of the society. It is completely a different satisfaction you get than what you get spending your hard earned money in one of the Top restaurants or Resorts or some multiplexes. The place is filled with clean and fresh air and I am just waiting for the day to go there and start leading a life at a pace few times slower than what I have right now. Well it has its own equal share of problems like generating fund for the project and trying to bring in students. I have been trying to sell the house which we have living for 25 years for this purpose without much luck. I hope I can do it ASAP in the New Year. :) 

I have been working (testing) on a flagship feature for my company and it has been a tough job for the past 9 months or so with all the dynamics around. The toughest part of all is handling the feature all by me with no one to get you out when you fall into trap. It has been a different working environment from my previous company not to mention that the domain is completely different from what I was working for the past 5 years. On the whole it has been a challenging environment to work and I have had a great experience doing it and have learnt quite a lot after joining the company. I have made very minimal friends here in the new company for some reason!!! I am still trying out to figure what that is ? It may be because, there aren’t many who is in the same boat as I am in any aspect of life :)  I hope I continue doing the best I can do here in the new company.

I entered a phase in my life where everyone is getting really busy with their lives including me and we friends hardly get time to meet each other. Still we have managed to go for few trips they were really a great time I have had this year. Most of my friends have either got engaged or have got married and it has become really difficult for them to find time for friends. One of my best friends had become a father this year and congrats to him on this achievement :)  Best of luck to all others who have entered wedlock or getting ready enter the same. The rest are in the process of finding a partner for them and I wish them good luck on finding a partner of their liking. I assume it is called wedlock for some reason. As far as I am concerned I am hoping to get into the same lock ASAP :) 

It is a New Decade in another few days and I wish you all have a prosperous life ahead. 

Wish you all a Happy New Year 2011........

Thalaivaa......

I guess we should restrict the usage of the word thalaivaa.....

kandakanda naayellam thalaivaa solranuga ! ! ! 

Hero Worship has been an integral part of this society for quite a long and at times it has even shaped up in a ridiculous way. It has scaled new heights in the past few months , thanks to the science fiction movie screened across the globe. The  movie was a very good attempt in Tamil Industry and the director has to be applauded for the attempt and the pains the entire team went through in making of the movie. I recently got a mail claiming that few tens of people had walked on their knees to the temple on top of a hill offering prayers for the success of the movie. Why would they even do this ????? Doubting the authenticity of the mail I tried searching few news articles only to surprised as it turned out to be true.... To be honest I was flabbergasted and felt pity on those brainless idiots.

It is completely a senseless act and I wonder if they will do the same for a friend of theirs even when they are in grave danger. I bet not many from those bunch will have an yes as an answer to this question. I still have no clue as to why someone would indulge themselves in such an act, just for an entertainer who is in no way related to them except for a little more than 2 hours every time they spend their money to watch him in silver screen. ! ! !  Many personify these entertainers to be leaders which they are not, instead of treating them as just entertainers who make them happy for just few hours.

At times this reaches some heights which many would regret in future. That would include pal abhishegam , archanai , aaraathi with sudam not for the person but for the poster. I feel really bad, for liters of milk go waste in the process. In a generation where these are questioned when performed for God himself by so many social activists what would these people get by wasting their time and money over someone. I am sure there are many better ways to show their love. There was another article by a fan pouring out his frustration on his so called leader for he was not able to see him on his birthday. He claimed to have travelled quite some distance just to convey his wishes but failed as he never got to meet the person. He went to the extent of questioning the attitude of the actor for not spending time with his fans on his Birthday. What he should understand is the actor is yet another  common man and he would want to spend time with his family on his Birthday.

Well even I do go for first day first show but that’s just for the entertainment and it does not mean that I adore him. All it means is that I just admire him and that’s the way we should be treating them. The only thing that comes as comfort is that the present generation is slowly but definitely moving away from Hero Worship. Gone are the days when people appreciated any crap if done by someone they love a lot. People appreciate good work these days without any biasing and that’s really a welcome sign. I hope this continues to grow and we can have an health films getting released instead of commercial entertainers. ... ! ! !

Who is Luckier ???

People marrying the one they love or People marrying the one who loves them a lot ? 

It looks quite a complicated question to answer on the outset but then when thought about it becomes much simpler than it actually is... :) There is this famous dialogue from a Tamil movie "It is better to marry a person who loves you than a person you love the most". I am not sure if that's the right way to go about choosing our partners. But then not everyone gets the person whom they love and as I had mentioned in my post we are bound to make compromises as always.Though both are lucky in few aspects, I strongly feel that the former is the luckiest ones in the world without any doubt. 


I am 26 now and I have seen my share of marriages, there are few scenarios where a person accepts all the mistakes and sometimes even crap the other do after marriage just for the fact that they love them a lot. So we generally feel that the person being loved is the luckiest in the world for they have found a perfect partner who accepts them for what they are and put up with all the crap they do. ... :) It is true to a great extent. But we fail to notice the happiness the other person gets just by the fact of being near with the person they love the most for rest of their lives. Their heart beats fast and they get excited each and every moment they spend with them and they are on top of the world for rest of their life. 


Imagine the moment you felt when you saw the person you fell in love for the first time,the moment you heard them speak something , the moment you shook hands with them even when you were friends, the moment you sat beside them on a travel or at a party, the moment they whisper a gossip in your ears when in a group, the moment you had them leaning on your shoulder,the moment they flash a smile on you,the moment you hugged them for the first time not to mention the moment you kissed them if that had happened by any chance....!!! It is these moments that make a person happy in a relationship. This might sound weird and unacceptable but then this is the truth and fact which many ignores completely after a certain age. The person who get to marry the one they love relish these moments for rest of their lives. The other though is loved and looked after with utmost care doesn't really get anywhere close to how these people feel. They might be happy but I feel they are not as lucky as the person who gets to marry the ones they loved the most.


I am not sure if many will agree to me but that's how I feel. I was really shorts of words for the first time while writing a post for some reason but, I hope I have conveyed my point. If not just chuck it, I did the best I could regarding this post. May be it is just not that easy to explain how we feel as it is to explain what we think :)

My First Blog Ever.....

It has been almost 5 years since I joined the blog world .  Even though I had no idea what blog spot was about when I created an account for myself in it. It took me nearly one months to write something decent enough to post and that was way back in  Sept-2006. I still remember spending 3 hours to write that and I cherish it till date. People generally change over years and so have I in many aspects of life but somehow feel that all that I wrote in my first post is still the same and nothing has changed drastically to change my thoughts with regard to that post except for the Topic. Now I feel that It should have been  just "Love" for Love is always true and if it is not then it was never Love....

Here I am republishing the same for many who has followed me recently and have missed my first Blog ....

http://kinsperumal.blogspot.com/2006/09/true-love.html

I was planning to do this after my 100th post but with the rate I am writing that might take 2 more years I suppose :)

Compromise.....

Life is full of compromises.

This is something I hear many saying when it comes to choosing a partner for them in life be it in an arranged or love marriage. But I was wondering If we start compromising only when it comes to choosing a partner!!! The truth is that compromise start in very early stages of our lives, in fact it starts right from the day we start to like something so badly, but then move on when we don't get it which is the case most of the times.....  :) 

I personally wanted to be a cricketer like any other Indian kid when I watched Sachin playing in Sharjah against Pakistan but then I had to put aside the plans for I had literally no encouragement or even support from my family for some reason and that was the first big compromise I had to make in my life. That continued for the rest of my childhood in which time I had to compromise a lot mostly for financial reasons which includes keyboard classes, hockey stick, jeans, and many more. There was one day I even had an argument about a bike which I wanted to have for travelling to school but my dad advised me in taking a cycle that we got when I was in 6th Std. Again I had to compromise this time but then I stuck to my decision of not taking the bi-cycle and I went to school walking all way for almost 2 kms daily. I was very angry with my dad for this the whole year.

One Year later.... 

We had to travel to Trichy for my engineering counseling just after 3 or 4 days after my dad had a surgery on his kidney to remove the stones in it. I had got 276.18 on 300 and was hoping to get a free seat in any of the private colleges in Chennai for obvious reasons. Never in my mind had I thought of picking up a seat in Anna University or any other Govt colleges. I know it is little weird but that’s the fact. But I was greeted with shock when I reached the place in the morning for we had very few seats in the private colleges, in fact the numbers of seats available were less than 10 and I was totally disappointed for my turn would come only in the evening at 5 to be exact. :(......

All through the day I was pushing my dad to get me a payment seat in ECE in Chennai which would cost five times more just for the fact that I wanted to enjoy a different lifestyle than what I had in my native place. Though he wanted me to take a seat in the Govt College, with a concerned face he just started turning the pages of a book provided with all the costs that would be involved and by the time we entered the all he had decided something in his mind. I could sense that he would get me the seat even if I didn't get a free seat in the college I wanted. As we entered the place I was surprised to find that the numbers had just dropped from less than 10 to less than 5. I had narrowed down to EEE seat in SRM after going behind ECE for almost all year for some reason without much knowledge about the college. Little did I know that It was the best place to study back then.... :)  

I had a little glow at this point for there was 3 seats available with 7 people to go before me only to find 4 among them were in the same quota. The entire glow vanished in seconds and all I asked my dad at that moment was a payment not thinking about his financial situation. He just nodded the head and I just kept my fingers crossed. After a commotion in the checking queue because of a mistake in my application form I was the first in selection queue when I entered the room with full of computers displaying the available options. We had the following notable options for us 

Free Seats: 

• ECE, EEE in Thiyagaraja College in Madurai.
• ECE in Govt College in Coimbatore.
• EEE, ECE seats in all the Govt colleges except REC, Anna University and PSG.
• Chemical in REC.
• Civil and lower branches in Anna University.
• ECE in St.Joseph
• ECE in MEPCO Sivakasi.
• EEE is SRM - 2 seats.
• Mechanical in PSG.

Of all the options in the screen I could see only SRM through my eyes. I knew that my dad wanted me to take the ECE seat which I had been talking about in Thiyagaraja college but when I chose the last but one EEE seat in SRM over that and he was taken aback by my decision but agreed to it without much resistance. Even now it remains a puzzle to him as to why I picked EEE over ECE which I wanted to pick. Now who picked the last is yet another interesting fact …… :) 

As we came out of the room we had to pay fifteen thousand rupees accepting the seat which would be just five thousand had it been Thiyagaraja College. As my dad was paying the fees, I noticed that he had carried enough cash for a payment seat along with him. Only then I realized what a huge compromise he had made at that moment just after his kidney surgery and with 2 more daughters to get married. It continued for another 4 years of his life where he spent around four lakhs for my college which could have been well below fifty thousand had I chose the Govt College in Madurai. Only then I realized all the compromises that I had done so far didn't not have any significance for the one he had done for me.

My dad might not have given me the best, but I am pretty much sure that he has always tried 200% to give me the best :) 

FB Prediction

I find myself spending considerable time in Facebook these days without much reasons and one way to kill time is by trying out the applications from some random vetti people.... :) Some are funny and some are total crap while many claim to predict your character or personality or your future. I have tried a lot of them but avoid posting the results to page mostly unless it turns out to be a funny one. The recent one that I used predicted my personality with almost 100% accuracy and I was startled by that... Here I am posting the same below......

Dear Nagasaravana Perumal, based PSYCHOLOGY PERSONALITY TEST, You’re a stubborn sweetheart. You “love” him/her only because he/she loves you. If his/her flame puts out, you let go with no trouble.

You’re undoubtedly good-natured! Most of the time, people are confident to approach you because they know you will consider them.

Here is the analysis:

·         You love the crowd... a party animal!

·         You’re usually expressive...

·         You love deeply...

·         You have so many ideas in mind... You’re creative and aggressive!

·         You’re independent!

Anybody thinks otherwise ????

Season of Surprises....

Friend : Hey one good news .....
Me :Sollu machi epo da kalyanam ?????

This conversation has become quite common these days. If you receive a call from your friend after quite sometime and you are able to sense some excitement in the tone, you can be certain that they have called you to invite either for their engagement or marriage. I have been served with too many surprises from my friends in the last month and I have ended up with almost no clue as to how to react to few of those. It all started of with Prudhvi a year back and now it is coming thick and fast. It has even made me think that I am growing a little old to be a bachelor anymore though I enjoy it like ever before.... :)

I have reacted differently to each, I was angry at a friend and shouted at him. The best surprise was from my best pal and I was nearly flabbergasted hearing him. I am still finding it really difficult to get out of the shock. But then slowly and steadily I have realized that opinion differs a lot when it comes to the choice of girl to marry. It has been quite contrasting from the same guys who were sighting similar girls together in college and company. As expected beauty has taken a step back seat and other stuff have taken precedence. Compatibility, character, purpose of life, expectations of family and of course horoscope, caste and status have been major influences in these decisions. Few choose what's best for them and others choose what's best for the family and a very few even leave the choice to their parents which is really a huge surprise these days. No matter how these decisions are taken, it is important that they take the best decision for it influences the rest of the life to come, to a great extent.

I am sure everyone is happy with their decisions and wish them a prosperous life ahead and hope we are in touch even after our marriages. Lesson learnt recently, do all you can do to help your friends narrow down on the best partner, only if you are asked for, never offer any advice or even suggestions after a decision is made by them and their family,for everyone knows whats best for them. You might not be in the same boat as they are, just wish them good luck. :)

Traitor

 “Miss that boy only did this miss "... This is not something rare in our school life and somehow everyone school and every class end up having someone who always is a pet to the staff and acts as a traitor and inform them of all the wrong doings that we indulge in. We did have one such guy in our class and though the entire class didn’t like him a lot for what he was doing he continued with that till we came out of the school. Though it’s unfortunate it is understandable that people in younger age trying to get a name for themselves among the staff just by giving them the information which we would have never given, but when you find such a guy even in college then that’s really unfortunate and when you realize that he did all that betraying just for a girl then that’s totally ridiculous. We had one such creature in our batch and we would curse our self for the rest of our lives for letting him go unpunished for what he did to us after our 2^nd year college tour.

That was our first tour in college life and I would never argue that what we did was completely right in the tour. Of course we did few things which we should have avoided, but at the same time we were not at fault completely either. We were trying to enjoy the trip and I should say we went beyond our limits a couple of times. I am sure most of us would agree to this in our department. I assumed that the issues were resolved amicably among us in the later part of the tour and we did have a good time after that till we came to know that there had been a complaint against a group of guys me being one among them. I was startled to see such a complaint going against us for we did nothing that was mentioned in the complaint to the principal. What was worst part here was we never knew who made this complaint for almost a week and I really appreciate that bastard for the way he did all this that we almost took over couple of weeks to find who he was.

The experience of going through the enquiry was interesting and I escaped from punishment while other was charged of Rs 5000 to Rs 7000 for what we did and it was a bitter experience for us to go through in our college though we learnt enough from it. As for the second tour was concerned it was further more bitter for various reasons and I made it a point that I had no photos of it to remind me of anything from the tour J I should accept that the locations chosen for the tour was amazing and I would love to take my wife there for a trip. Well the interesting fact here is that the traitor was there even in the second tour trying to get along with all of us but never did we speak with that son of a bitch again as we had done before and I still blame us that we didn’t thrash him for what he did to us. But I just loved the way he was treated by my dear friend from Hyderabad in our farewell and also when he was getting his autographed shirt signed by all of us. I never signed it but my friend did by writing "Bastard stop betraying friends and be loyal in future". He would have regretted asking his signature.

I hope someone betrays him big time in his life, I might sound silly here but I seriously wish that someone ditches him so that he would go through what we had gone through in college. What prompted me in writing this blog is, I saw someone comment in one of his photos as “Hero” which actually should have been “Zero”….. Bloody mother $%^&#@ ….. Pardon me with the tone of this blog. By the way Mr.Traitor if at all you happen to read this blog you should really be grateful for I have been a true gentleman and have not given your name out here.

Photography

I just couldn't resist staring at this picture. 

This has become my wallpaper both in my Lappy and Phone. 

Let me know if someone gets the same picture in 800 x 600 resolution.

Raavanan

I am a huge fan of Mani Ratnam and a review on Raavanan was inevitable from me. I somehow managed to get tickets of the movie for the second day and I went on top of a food poison and fever, only to be disappointed. The movie though had few stuff to be appreciated like cinematography, music and the hard work put in by the artists.

To say the least, cinematography was mesmerizing and it would take a while before anyone could match those visuals. The music has been topping the charts without any surprise, but the way the songs were handled in the movie was really pathetic. "Usurae poguthey Usurae Poguthey" an emotional song came in just like that when there was nothing emotional in the scene. I was bloody disappointed with that and I should say I never recovered from it at all till date. I hated the dialogues in between the song, I wonder why the director would want to choose such a place for the leads to interact when ARR does what he does the best. It would have been perfect had he placed the song where vikram tries to propose (kind of) Aishwarya."Kaattu Sirukki" was completely wasted and all I could do was, have pity on A.R.Rahman. May be he should continue touring western countries as he has been doing these days instead of composing for someone who is going to waste the song.

It would be impossible to find any flaws when it comes to the performance of each and every character, right from the leads to the supporting characters and even ones who has very little scenes like veeras's brother have done a fabulous job. The stunt director should have stayed with the crew throughout the shoot for they had taken such risky shots all through the movie. The locations where excellent and I wonder how Mani managed to convince his stars to shoot in those beautifully dangerous places. May be his reputation helps him here.... :) I am sure at some point of time in the movie people would be confused as to whom Mani is trying to depict as hero, Veera or Dev, but I would say he has just shown us the reality that every individual has grey shades in them. I really liked this attempt of Mani in the movie.

For people wondering how this movie could be bad when most things are good in it, here comes the reason, the major elements for any movie to me is story and screenplay. The movie claimed to be an adaptation of the great epic Ramayanam has a weak story line and the screenplay doesn't help it recover either. One could easily predict what’s next and the movie is short of any twists or turns except for the last 10 minutes which is again little predictable. It was nice that Aishwarya didn’t end up with Veera and I also liked the way Mani left the movie there instead of her getting together with Dev either. He doesn’t deserve to get her back for sure. The end was perfect and couldn’t have been better. But at the end all I could do was awe at the way everyone has given their heart and soul into the movie and not at the movie itself and that has lead to the failure of the movie. The pity is that all these hard work has gone for nothing because of a weak story line and an ordinary screenplay. A few might end with awards thought for their individual brilliance but none of that could save the movie from going to grave in the first couple of weeks of its release. This coming from an ace director like Mani is a huge disappointment not only to me but also to the most ardent fans of the director.

Beauty

Real beauty of a girl is revealed, not when she is in a cocktail dress, not when she is done with her routine in beauty parlour, not when she is in with her make-up for her wedding, not when she is in her casuals with a free floating hair, not when she in a traditional attire, and certainly not when she is in her revealing best, but it is revealed when she has nothing in her mind and when she doesn't try to appear different from what she is and when she is not aware of who is looking at her and that is when she is in "Deep Sleep". The sad fact is that not many get to see the real beauty of a girl.

She/He...And a love story

NOTE: This was a forward from a Girl.Read till the end; nothing’s more worthy than the ending… The reason for posting this is many replied to the forward saying this was very true from the bottom of their heart.....

Friend:  Happy birthday!  
She  : Haan...tha......nk yo....u...was just getting up from the bed.
 
Friend  : Oh! That means I am the first to wish you!  
She  : Naa! He has already wished me at 12 in the night.
 
Friend  : Who???  
She  : Come on, who else, Nitin.
 
Friend  : Oh, ok. So, what's the plan for today?  
She  : Nitin told me that he has a surprise gift for me for my Birthday. And also we are going to Flower Show today. I am excited! I have never seen the flower show that happens in Lal Baug. Actually that itself is the most wonderful gift for me.


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Friend  : "Did you go to Palace grounds all the way from Basavanagudi, to see Bryan Adam's show!!! Who accompanied you?"  
She  : Nitin
 
Friend  : By the way, who referred your CV in  Infosys ? I mean you don't know anyone there, right?  
She  : No, he forwarded my CV to one of his friends there.
 
Friend  : I heard that the HR round interview went on till 8pm in the night. I think you faced difficulty in returning to your room.  
She  : No, he had come to pick me up. He came from his office, dropped me to my room and he returned to his room at around 11pm. He didn't have dinner also. I asked him to have at my room. Poor Nitin.


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Friend  : If you are supposed to go home tomorrow itself then what about reservation?  
She  : I have told him, he will go to Majestic and would get it done, and he told he has some work in Majestic. That's why I am relaxed a bit.


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Friend  : Hello...what about our sari shopping program in Malleshwaram?  
She  : Listen, I will call you later.
 
Friend  :  You didn't call me back in the morning, so I called now.  
She  : Yeah, when you called I was in Koramangala, with Nitin. He was very upset in the morning. He had a fight with his elder brother. So, it wouldn't have been fair on my part to leave him alone. If I am with him in such situation very soon he comes back to normalcy. So I postponed the Malleshwaram program.


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Friend  : Hey! What happened? You seem to be very happy today.  
She  : Why not?  You know today is one of the most happiest days for me. Nitin got an onsite assignment in UK, for 6 months! That's why I am very happy. All of his work paid today. He had been waiting for this opportunity since long. He'll be leaving next month.
 
Friend  : You will miss him.  
She  : Badly. I must thank Rohit, through him only I got to know Nitin. Without Nitin it would have been very difficult for me to stay in this alien city with no friends, relatives . He has been so caring friend all through my tough times in this city, he is so mature, so understanding...a true friend.
 
Friend  : He loves you yaar.  
She  : I know. He has expressed his feelings towards me.
 
Friend  : Hey…When did he do that? You didn’t tell me…and what was your reply?
She  : Come on yaar…chill… You know my answer what would have been.

Friend  : Don't you love him?  
She  : I don't want to.
 
Friend  : Don't tell me. You also have a soft corner for him, if not love. 
She  : I don't want to commit.
 
Friend  : What is stopping you? I really don't understand. When  Miya-beevi  are  razi kya karega kazi ?  
She  : Please...don't say like that. I never told him that I love him or something like that, though he has tried to convince me.
 
Friend  : Are you a fool not to understand his feelings which are so clear from outside only? Poor fellow, don't leave him alone.  
She  : He is nice, but not my kind of guy. He is just a friend, I never had those feelings for him. I have told him everything about me and my family. He knows how orthodox my parents are. They can never expect me marrying a guy from a different state. They trust me. Come what may, I will not hurt my parent's feelings. I cannot imagine also. Now they are happily searching a guy for me in my native place.

Friend  : But you should marry a guy who loves you the most, not the one you like. And it’s clearly visible how much you mean to him.
She  : Please…I don’t want to discuss about him anymore. I will gradually move away from him….I believe my parents will definitely find a good alliance..
  
Friend  : Hmm, I don't understand at all. I am thinking how Nitin will take this. Hope he will move on.


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She  :  This Saturday I have to go home, a guy is coming to see me.  
Friend  : Oh! Is it? Good news yaar. Your first interview! Wish you all the best.
 
Friend  : Any guesses, who is he?  
She  :  Please yaar. I am least bothered and least interested. For the sake of my parents' happiness I have agreed for this.


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Friend  : What about the interview, I was expecting your call actually?  
She  :  Nothing so special. I didn't like the guy's attitude. I told my parents clearly. My parents are very understanding and so they too told me that they won't go ahead with this matter.


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Friend  : Yesterday your mobile was engaged for more than half an hour. I kept trying, but I slept after 11pm.  
She  : Yeah, I was talking to Nitin. He is very much worried about my marriage. He is concerned whether I would get a guy of my choice or not, whether I would be happy with him or not. I was very sad to know this. But I am helpless. I pacified him and convinced that whatever my parents do, that will be the best for me, so no need to worry.
 
Friend  : How Nitin will feel after you get married? Will he not be upset all the time?  
She  :  Time will change everything. He will start living again. Was he not leading a normal life before I came into his life?
I don’t like him “that” much to marry him. I have already told him about this. Anyway my parents will choose the best for me, a really nice, caring guy.
It's all matter of time. Even I can't do anything other than pacifying him and myself with these philosophical statements.


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Finally "  She " got engaged with a guy of her parent's choice (with her "yes" of course). She is in touch with both Nitin and the new "  him " regularly through chatting in Google Talk.
Now she ignores Nitin’s SMSs and pings, coz she doesn’t feel “comfortable” with that, as her alliance is fixed now.


Finally "  She " got happily married to "  him ", very soon converting Nitin into memories. But deleting the memories was slow and impossible for Nitin.


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Why do girls do like this?  What was Nitin’s fault? Why is that the girl who meant the world for him, treats him just like any other guy?


She needs him when she is new to the city.
She needs his help in finding out a PG or hostel for her
She makes him prepare a good-format-CV for her
She needs him to drop her to the venue of a walk-in interview
She expects him to collect all the consultants' mail ids
She needs him while preparing for the interviews
She needs his help in identifying HER skill sets, strengths and weakness!
She wants him to conduct a mock-interview for her!
She gives her yahoo mail id password so that he can forward her CV to consultants through internet in his office (in office hours!)
She needs him for boosting her confidence when she fails in the 1^st  written test in her life
She wants him to take her to M.G Road , Brigade Road, Forum and Big bazaar
She needs his company while visiting all the temples in Malleshwaram on Vijayadashami, though he is not a believer of God.
She asks his opinions on importance of marriage  
She wants him to be a shoulder to cry when her parents force her for marriage
She needs his help in preparing her mind for the first interview with a guy
She needs his help in deciding about the marriage proposal
She loves to share her happiness with him when she gets engaged
She expects him to attend her marriage (Come on guys, he is a true friend of her!)


The guy does all this honestly, without saying a single "No".


He loves her.
He cares for her.
Whatever he is today; it is only because of her entry in to his life.
He treats her as his life.
He dreams to be her life-partner.
She changed him.
It is only because of her, he is smiling.
It is only because of her, he has forgotten the past bitter experiences.
She is the first person in his life to influence him so much.
He was the "  bhatka hua musafir  " and she came as his " manzil ".
He threw the cigarette in the dust-bin because of her.
He has cultivated a positive attitude towards marriage and family because of her.
She is the perfect Indian woman he has ever seen.
He keeps a photo of Lord Krishna in his purse now; only because of her (also it is her favorite deity!).
Weekends come and go without his notice; it is only because of her.
He stopped going to office on Weekends; it is only because of her.
Onsite project was his dream; he puts all his efforts now, not to get an onsite assignment but to make her happy.


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The girl depends on the guy as if she never lived and can never live without him. Guy behaves as if he has taken birth on this earth only to care for that lady. She treats him as a shoulder to cry and he treats her as a puppy in a rain storm. She loves to depend and he loves to take care, finally they fall in so called "love", ultimately adding an unnecessary trauma to life.
Girls want a perfect life partner but they don't want to hurt their parents' feelings, guys know that they can't get her but still they want to care for her(because they want her to be happy wherever she is and with whoever she is).
Great! Or shall I say crap!


Or I think no need to be so serious about it.


She gets engaged, life goes on...
Long lasting phone calls become short and sweet, life goes on...
A heart which was used to "Good morning", “Good night” and “Happy journey” SMSs learns to be happy with just the "Happy weekend" and SMSs, life goes on...
No more "Unread messages" in the Gmail, life goes on...
No one to share coffee at "Barista" at the end of a tiring working day, life goes on...
No more consultants' calls to be diverted and life goes on...
He stops taking care of his health, life goes on…
He resumes smoking again, life goes on...
He is still living in flashback, and no looking back for her, but life goes on...
He starts drinking, life goes on...
He gets promoted, he is a manager, she is mother of two kids, and life goes on...
He earns a lot, but lost forever, life goes on…
He still wonders what went wrong, life goes on…
He smiles in the pain recollecting the time spent with her, and she is happy with her family, but life goes on…

Can anyone say that it has never happened in your life...Dare to say no...It happens with all… If not this, at least something equivalent… Or maybe you are neither “Her” nor “Nitin”, but  the “Friend”

Graceful Exit

It has been 4 and half years since I joined my company and the entire journey has been a really interesting. Having joined with no knowledge of programming languages I feel I have done enough, though little lucky at times, to survive all these years without any major hassles. I might not have got all I wanted but I think I got enough to be satisfied if not happy. A chance to fly abroad, a visit to New York and to awe at the beauty of Niagara would have been only in dreams if not for this industry… :)  I would have even got another chance at these on a long term basis if not for my decision to quit the company.

The decision to quit had been pending for quite some time since there was a change in the reporting structure with my Manager moving out to a different project. There is a very familiar quote in the industry which goes like this… “People don’t leave the company, they just leave their managers”. I didn’t give it a serious thought  until I decided to quit. Though there were many factors playing a major role in my decision to quit like family, life style and money, the prime reason for me starting to look out was the way I was handled in the project. I have to thank few for they urged me to look out instead of getting comfortable with what I had. I have always dreamed of turning my tag red before I could leave but then I had to decide against it and that’s one of very few regrets I have while leaving the company. The other one being I was not allowed to use my H1 visa. I somehow never got the criteria these people have, to narrow down on people to be in long term assignment.  The same people are given chance again and again for some reason, and the reason is self explanatory in this video.…. :)   Anyways I am out of it now, and may be had I gone for a long term few would have tagged me as a “Jakku Boy” too…. :) 

The last a thing any human would want in life is a good funeral and the last thing any employer would want is a graceful exit. The exit was as smooth as the joining process was in my company. We stayed till 10 that day with all friends and were talking like we would never have another chance to talk. But that was in a way true as I find is highly impossible for every one of us to come together and have a long useless chat...:) We have already failed in one such attempt after me coming out of the company. People have their own priorities and none can be blamed here. So it was nice that we spent enough time on my last day. Of all the exits I have seen in my tenure somehow I feel mine was the best and many would agree to that also for some obvious reasons. If there is an another opportunity for me to be associated with my previous employee I will be more than ready to do it, for it was 4 wonderful years for me after college.

Lesson Learnt: Write anything when your soul is into it. Else you are going get a post like this. This is not how it was in my mind 2 months back. But somehow I am not able to put it the way I had in mind 2 months back. This will go down as one of the worst post by me.... :) 

Powerless Saturday :(.....

What’s your favourite day?  Back in school I would say “Thursday” just for the reason that I was born on that day. As time changed so did the answer, it has become Saturday and most people especially the software professionals would agree to that for obvious reasons.There is a famous saying “Saturday Night Full Tight “. I don’t drink though:) But, I too love Saturdays as that’s the only day you get to enjoy staying at home and watching worthless crap in TV all day long lying in the bed. God that’s become one of my favourite time pass activities in summer as it is bloody hot out and they switch off the cooling systems in most shopping malls. Well appreciated Green Initiative by those people thought that’s not their intentions.:) 

                I woke up on one such Saturday and was taken aback to know the reason why I lost my sleep!!!  The ceiling fan was slowly coming to stand still and I was sweating than usual for an early morning. Only then I realized TNEB had spoilt my peaceful beginning to a Saturday. It does not end there, As I opened the door that was kept closed all night to prevent cool air from escaping the room I heard my neighbour saying “Saravanan inaikku 5 manikku than current varum” . Well it is always current and never power for a common man in India:) . Naasama poochu I had to be at home all day with no power!!! I just couldn’t stand the thought of it. My mind started racing with thoughts and I was thinking as to how we could avoid this and decided to do few things.

The first thing I did was to take bath in nice cold water, picked few documents and got out of the home by 11, by then I was sweating like pig. My first destination was BSNL office, the reason is they had AC running 24/7. I took all the time it would take to finish this blog just to fill a form asking me 4 questions. The huge queue served my purpose to spend more time, I was happy to see people breaking the queue which would have made me fight with them any other day. I just let them pass while I was enjoying my time there and learning from people around. People were complaining for the poor service provided and the officers were blaming the government and public for they had no time for their breakfast on Saturdays. I was not bothered any of these for all I wanted was to spend as much time as possible in AC. Even after doing all this I was able to complete the request for BB plan change in an hour. Next pit stop was at Vodafone for the same reason as BSNL office. I managed to find a decent looking girl if not good and thank god she spoke about all the post paid plans and offers in a sweet voice. After an hour I submitted my proofs for pre-paid connection and left the store saying none of the plans meet requirements. It was 1 by that time, and I decided to have lunch now.

                Thanks to A2B they maintain ambient temperature round the clock. No guesses this time as expected I took as much time as possible as in other places to finish my lunch and it was 1:30 when I was done with it. I had nothing else left except for Naidu Hall to go which is a place most frequented by ladies. So I decided to head home hoping that the TNEB had changed their mind but with no luck. I played cricket with a guy in 6^th standard who had his own set rules which was dynamic benefiting him each time. Kids are always kids:).Anyways it was nice playing in one of the shortest pitch ever possible in the world. He was too tired to continue and went to sleep leaving me in despair. I wonder how on earth he gets sleep with no power around. I even thought of visiting a friend of mine nearby but decided against it for the only reason that they were newly married couple. I didn’t want to be a Nandi between them spoiling their weekend too. The good thing that day was that there was a cloud cover, so it was nice to ride a bike.

                I started riding and few minutes later I was riding into all the roads that I have never taken thinking about the poem “Road not taken“I reached a mountain nearby. I have seen few houses among those mountains and couple of uncompleted steel structures on my train journey to my office. I have always wondered what was there in the mountains. I was surprised to see that there was a huge settlement in the mountains and they had an umpteen number of houses in them and the streets were completely confusing as it was not planned. I was passing through the same way again and again thinking the reason behind the huge settlement till I hit a dead end. Then I took a different path altogether and hit the reason behind the settlement. There was huge quarrying operation carried out in the mountains and all people working there had built their houses around with little planning for the streets. Everyone were looking at me like an alien and that made me realize how close those people were with each other that they are easily able to spot a stranger. The place was more like a village with people playing “Thayam” and “Aadu puli

                This time I woke up when the ceiling fan had just started on a complete contrast to how I woke-up 9 hours before in the morning. Then I realized how kid got a sound sleep in the afternoon without this god damn power. It was a nice experience to spend time out than staring at the TV all day long even after realizing that there is nothing worthy to stare at.

It is yet another Saturday as I write this blog; I am staring at the TV for nothing and scanning channels knowing that I wouldn’t be able to find anything worthy. I should get out of this addiction somehow ASAP:)