02/06/2010

She/He...And a love story


NOTE: This was a forward from a Girl.Read till the end; nothing’s more worthy than the ending… The reason for posting this is many replied to the forward saying this was very true from the bottom of their heart.....
Friend:  Happy birthday!  
She  
: Haan...tha......nk yo....u...was just getting up from the bed.
 
Friend  
: Oh! That means I am the first to wish you!  
She  
: Naa! He has already wished me at 12 in the night.
 
Friend  
: Who???  
She  
: Come on, who else, Nitin.
 
Friend  
: Oh, ok. So, what's the plan for today?  
She  
: Nitin told me that he has a surprise gift for me for my Birthday. And also we are going to Flower Show today. I am excited! I have never seen the flower show that happens in Lal Baug. Actually that itself is the most wonderful gift for me.


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Friend  
: "Did you go to Palace grounds all the way from Basavanagudi, to see Bryan Adam's show!!! Who accompanied you?"  
She  
: Nitin
 
Friend  
: By the way, who referred your CV in  Infosys ? I mean you don't know anyone there, right?  
She  
: No, he forwarded my CV to one of his friends there.
 
Friend  
: I heard that the HR round interview went on till 8pm in the night. I think you faced difficulty in returning to your room.  
She  
: No, he had come to pick me up. He came from his office, dropped me to my room and he returned to his room at around 11pm. He didn't have dinner also. I asked him to have at my room. Poor Nitin.


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Friend  
: If you are supposed to go home tomorrow itself then what about reservation?  
She  
: I have told him, he will go to Majestic and would get it done, and he told he has some work in Majestic. That's why I am relaxed a bit.


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Friend  
: Hello...what about our sari shopping program in Malleshwaram?  
She  
: Listen, I will call you later.
 
Friend  
:  You didn't call me back in the morning, so I called now.  
She  
: Yeah, when you called I was in Koramangala, with Nitin. He was very upset in the morning. He had a fight with his elder brother. So, it wouldn't have been fair on my part to leave him alone. If I am with him in such situation very soon he comes back to normalcy. So I postponed the Malleshwaram program.


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Friend  
: Hey! What happened? You seem to be very happy today.  
She  
: Why not?  You know today is one of the most happiest days for me. Nitin got an onsite assignment in UK, for 6 months! That's why I am very happy. All of his work paid today. He had been waiting for this opportunity since long. He'll be leaving next month.
 
Friend  
: You will miss him.  
She  
: Badly. I must thank Rohit, through him only I got to know Nitin. Without Nitin it would have been very difficult for me to stay in this alien city with no friends, relatives . He has been so caring friend all through my tough times in this city, he is so mature, so understanding...a true friend.
 
Friend  
: He loves you yaar.  
She  
: I know. He has expressed his feelings towards me.
 
Friend  
: Hey…When did he do that? You didn’t tell me…and what was your reply?
She  : Come on yaar…chill… You know my answer what would have been.

Friend  : Don't you love him?  
She  
: I don't want to.
 
Friend  
: Don't tell me. You also have a soft corner for him, if not love. 
She  
: I don't want to commit.
 
Friend  
: What is stopping you? I really don't understand. When  Miya-beevi  are  razi kya karega kazi ?  
She  
: Please...don't say like that. I never told him that I love him or something like that, though he has tried to convince me.
 
Friend  
: Are you a fool not to understand his feelings which are so clear from outside only? Poor fellow, don't leave him alone.  
She  
: He is nice, but not my kind of guy. He is just a friend, I never had those feelings for him. I have told him everything about me and my family. He knows how orthodox my parents are. They can never expect me marrying a guy from a different state. They trust me. Come what may, I will not hurt my parent's feelings. I cannot imagine also. Now they are happily searching a guy for me in my native place.

Friend  : But you should marry a guy who loves you the most, not the one you like. And it’s clearly visible how much you mean to him.
She  : Please…I don’t want to discuss about him anymore. I will gradually move away from him….I believe my parents will definitely find a good alliance..
  
Friend  
: Hmm, I don't understand at all. I am thinking how Nitin will take this. Hope he will move on.


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She  
:  This Saturday I have to go home, a guy is coming to see me.  
Friend  
: Oh! Is it? Good news yaar. Your first interview! Wish you all the best.
 
Friend  
: Any guesses, who is he?  
She  
:  Please yaar. I am least bothered and least interested. For the sake of my parents' happiness I have agreed for this.


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Friend  
: What about the interview, I was expecting your call actually?  
She  
:  Nothing so special. I didn't like the guy's attitude. I told my parents clearly. My parents are very understanding and so they too told me that they won't go ahead with this matter.


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Friend  
: Yesterday your mobile was engaged for more than half an hour. I kept trying, but I slept after 11pm.  
She  
: Yeah, I was talking to Nitin. He is very much worried about my marriage. He is concerned whether I would get a guy of my choice or not, whether I would be happy with him or not. I was very sad to know this. But I am helpless. I pacified him and convinced that whatever my parents do, that will be the best for me, so no need to worry.
 
Friend  
: How Nitin will feel after you get married? Will he not be upset all the time?  
She  
:  Time will change everything. He will start living again. Was he not leading a normal life before I came into his life?
I don’t like him “that” much to marry him. I have already told him about this. Anyway my parents will choose the best for me, a really nice, caring guy.
It's all matter of time. Even I can't do anything other than pacifying him and myself with these philosophical statements.


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Finally "  She " got engaged with a guy of her parent's choice (with her "yes" of course). She is in touch with both Nitin and the new "  him " regularly through chatting in Google Talk.
Now she ignores Nitin’s SMSs and pings, coz she doesn’t feel “comfortable” with that, as her alliance is fixed now.


Finally "  She " got happily married to "  him ", very soon converting Nitin into memories. But deleting the memories was slow and impossible for Nitin.


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Why do girls do like this?  What was Nitin’s fault? Why is that the girl who meant the world for him, treats him just like any other guy?


She needs him when she is new to the city.
She needs his help in finding out a PG or hostel for her
She makes him prepare a good-format-CV for her
She needs him to drop her to the venue of a walk-in interview
She expects him to collect all the consultants' mail ids
She needs him while preparing for the interviews
She needs his help in identifying HER skill sets, strengths and weakness!
She wants him to conduct a mock-interview for her!
She gives her yahoo mail id password so that he can forward her CV to consultants through internet in his office (in office hours!)
She needs him for boosting her confidence when she fails in the 1st  written test in her life
She wants him to take her to M.G Road , Brigade Road, Forum and Big bazaar
She needs his company while visiting all the temples in Malleshwaram on Vijayadashami, though he is not a believer of God.
She asks his opinions on importance of marriage  
She wants him to be a shoulder to cry when her parents force her for marriage
She needs his help in preparing her mind for the first interview with a guy
She needs his help in deciding about the marriage proposal
She loves to share her happiness with him when she gets engaged
She expects him to attend her marriage (Come on guys, he is a true friend of her!)


The guy does all this honestly, without saying a single "No".


He loves her.
He cares for her.
Whatever he is today; it is only because of her entry in to his life.
He treats her as his life.
He dreams to be her life-partner.
She changed him.
It is only because of her, he is smiling.
It is only because of her, he has forgotten the past bitter experiences.
She is the first person in his life to influence him so much.
He was the "  bhatka hua musafir  " and she came as his " manzil ".
He threw the cigarette in the dust-bin because of her.
He has cultivated a positive attitude towards marriage and family because of her.
She is the perfect Indian woman he has ever seen.
He keeps a photo of Lord Krishna in his purse now; only because of her (also it is her favorite deity!).
Weekends come and go without his notice; it is only because of her.
He stopped going to office on Weekends; it is only because of her.
Onsite project was his dream; he puts all his efforts now, not to get an onsite assignment but to make her happy.


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The girl depends on the guy as if she never lived and can never live without him. Guy behaves as if he has taken birth on this earth only to care for that lady. She treats him as a shoulder to cry and he treats her as a puppy in a rain storm. She loves to depend and he loves to take care, finally they fall in so called "love", ultimately adding an unnecessary trauma to life.
Girls want a perfect life partner but they don't want to hurt their parents' feelings, guys know that they can't get her but still they want to care for her(because they want her to be happy wherever she is and with whoever she is).
Great! Or shall I say crap!


Or I think no need to be so serious about it.


She gets engaged, life goes on...
Long lasting phone calls become short and sweet, life goes on...
A heart which was used to "Good morning", “Good night” and “Happy journey” SMSs learns to be happy with just the "Happy weekend" and SMSs, life goes on...
No more "Unread messages" in the Gmail, life goes on...
No one to share coffee at "Barista" at the end of a tiring working day, life goes on...
No more consultants' calls to be diverted and life goes on...
He stops taking care of his health, life goes on…
He resumes smoking again, life goes on...
He is still living in flashback, and no looking back for her, but life goes on...
He starts drinking, life goes on...
He gets promoted, he is a manager, she is mother of two kids, and life goes on...
He earns a lot, but lost forever, life goes on…
He still wonders what went wrong, life goes on…
He smiles in the pain recollecting the time spent with her, and she is happy with her family, but life goes on…

Can anyone say that it has never happened in your life...Dare to say no...It happens with all…
If not this, at least something equivalent… Or maybe you are neither “Her” nor “Nitin”, but 
the “Friend”

2 comments:

Nimme said...

Needless to say...
I was in FRIEND character in real life. I do admit hv seen couple of HERs and guys like NITIN are helpless soulds in the planet.

Nice narration style

Nagasaravana Perumal K I said...

@ Nirmal

Thankd god u were frienda dn not Nitin :)