Regrets ...

Life is full of compromises. This is something I have heard many say, when they argue about sutaining a relationship. It is a known fact that no relationship is perfect and we do have to make adjustments to sustain one, but how much is too much ???? That's the million dollar question in most people's mind,

I happen to watch a famous chat show in a private channel recently, where they had people supporting breakup/divorcee on one side and the opposite on the other side. Funny fact is few divorces had the most cheap and mean reasons behind it, like disputes that raised while naming the kid, decision on which religion to be followed by the kid in case of a inter-catse marriage. But the alarming fact was the reason given by the people who were on the opposing side. The most popular reason given was they had to live together because they had kids. Agreed it is one of the important factor that influences the couple to work out the differences and be together but can that be the only reason for a couple to be together ! ! ! Personally I would say NO. Two people should stay together only when they want to spend their lives together in peace and harmony. Infact staying toggether wheh they dont want will only ruin the kid's life instead of having any positive influence on them.

I find too many people these days stuck in a marriage just because they have got kids out of it. They no longer love each other and to them , the kid is the whole world. Forget loving , they don't even respect each other and stay together just to raise the kid and in the process ruin their own lives. The expectation they have on the kid is too high that they want the kid to make up for all that is lost in their personal lives and this leads to possesiveness and later to obsession. To me personally it is always better to end a relationship than to sustain it just for the sake of it. But that does not mean we should ignore a friend just becoz they broke our trust once or get a divorce from your partner just because he/she has grown fat than they were at the time of marriage :) :) :) Just make sure that you have done all that is possible from your side for the relationship to work, and if it does not just shake hands and separate on mutual terms. It would be highly emabrassing to want a relationship after breaking it :) :) :)  Last but the most important thing is we need to correct our mistakes in the next relationship.

There is no point in regretting, for a life that you haven't led and for the life you have led....

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