People marrying the one they love or People marrying the one who loves them a lot ?
It looks quite a complicated question to answer on the outset but then when thought about it becomes much simpler than it actually is... :) There is this famous dialogue from a Tamil movie "It is better to marry a person who loves you than a person you love the most". I am not sure if that's the right way to go about choosing our partners. But then not everyone gets the person whom they love and as I had mentioned in my post we are bound to make compromises as always.Though both are lucky in few aspects, I strongly feel that the former is the luckiest ones in the world without any doubt.
I am 26 now and I have seen my share of marriages, there are few scenarios where a person accepts all the mistakes and sometimes even crap the other do after marriage just for the fact that they love them a lot. So we generally feel that the person being loved is the luckiest in the world for they have found a perfect partner who accepts them for what they are and put up with all the crap they do. ... :) It is true to a great extent. But we fail to notice the happiness the other person gets just by the fact of being near with the person they love the most for rest of their lives. Their heart beats fast and they get excited each and every moment they spend with them and they are on top of the world for rest of their life.
Imagine the moment you felt when you saw the person you fell in love for the first time,the moment you heard them speak something , the moment you shook hands with them even when you were friends, the moment you sat beside them on a travel or at a party, the moment they whisper a gossip in your ears when in a group, the moment you had them leaning on your shoulder,the moment they flash a smile on you,the moment you hugged them for the first time not to mention the moment you kissed them if that had happened by any chance....!!! It is these moments that make a person happy in a relationship. This might sound weird and unacceptable but then this is the truth and fact which many ignores completely after a certain age. The person who get to marry the one they love relish these moments for rest of their lives. The other though is loved and looked after with utmost care doesn't really get anywhere close to how these people feel. They might be happy but I feel they are not as lucky as the person who gets to marry the ones they loved the most.
I am not sure if many will agree to me but that's how I feel. I was really shorts of words for the first time while writing a post for some reason but, I hope I have conveyed my point. If not just chuck it, I did the best I could regarding this post. May be it is just not that easy to explain how we feel as it is to explain what we think :)
11 comments:
Ofcourse.. The people who get to live with the ones they luv are the luckiest.
To luv & to be luved in return is a blessing.. Not everyone gets it.. :)
@Naga,
You have become one hella relationship/marriage/love expert :P
with your blogs.
:)
As long as makkal are happy with what they have and live, it doesnt matter much :)
@Mithra,
"To luv & to be luved in return is a blessing"
We shouldnt have barter system right?
Hello Love guru .. Its a good one to read but i guess people who have loved or being loved one would be able to judge it right way machi .. Sorry but if it was about friendship i would have give my best comments bcz East or West Friendship is the best da .. Any way its a really nice blog and looks u have become more romantic these Love Guru .. hehehhehehehe :)
Good one Naga!
It goes without saying... that living with someone you love is THE best choice. But, it'll be better if the person you love also loves you back. That is another better scenario. ;-)
But, if you happen to marry someone who loves you.... and then you fall in love with them... and love them back... that is again beautiful.
But it is unfair to compare these situations... ;-)
@ Nirmal
Expert ellam konjam too much :) I am just wrting what I see in daily life da...
Most arranged marriage ends up in barter system da.. No other go there ...
@Kalyan and Jude
Thanks da ....
office-ku kalambama I was reading all your blogs today :) Nice job buddy!
@ aarti
I assume you to be aarti from SRM EEE dept. Thanks a lot... Was it that good for you to waste time on reading my blog :)
You have explained the feel in a better way !
As in the sayings...
" Its human tendency to underestimate the things given for granted " (Be it love
If u r loving a person, does it mean that the other one is not happy for being loved by you :)
Not really Isn't it !!
Every relationship makes pleasure n joy TOGETHER.. Looking at from one-end is not sounding good.
I feel that, To Love or to b loved r mesmerizing feel in its own way :):)
Actually I was curious about the stuff that you had blogged about college..like the traitor for instance..I was trying hard to remember the incident and who that 'hero' might be! :)
and did u get the hero :)
Nope :( Who is that Naga? email pannu :)
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